Summer is my favourite season. What’s not to love? There’s sunshine, heat, long days, warm evenings, tan skin, bohemian vibes, bare feet, tank tops, beaches, ice cream, holidays, free time, and adventures. I love camping, staying up late, sleeping in, travelling, eating local fruit and veggies from my own garden. These all comprise my favourite things.
As people begin to talk about the coming of fall with its crisp air, scarves and boots, changing leaves, and pumpkin spice everything, they are excited. A lot of people love fall. I am not one of them. To me fall represents the end of happiness (i.e., summertime) and the coming of despair (i.e., winter). It’s hard for me to keep a positive attitude, which I need desperately as the temperatures drop and the sunlight disappears.
I struggle enough through winter as it is, so I don’t need to exacerbate the issue with preceding apprehension. In an effort to make this year better, I’ve made a commitment to myself to stop fighting the change of seasons. I’m learning that these strategies can be applied to other seasons of change in my life as well. Here’s how to deal with: (insert your season of change here) the changing seasons.
The principles of mindfulness include awareness, acceptance, non-judgement and a present moment focus. With these in mind, remain aware of your thoughts and feelings “negative” or otherwise – fear, confusion, sadness, anticipation. Accept them without judgement – it’s okay!
Focus on the present moment within the season of change, instead of jumping ahead with predictions of the end result, and accept it as well. A mindful mantra I use often is, “What is here is already here.” Change happens whether we like it or not; we make it a little easier for ourselves if we can accept that.What is here is already here. Click To Tweet
As humans, we are naturally inclined to focus on the negative. Intentionally practicing gratitude is an effective way orient our minds and thoughts toward the positive instead. At the end of each day, think of three things you are grateful for from that day, big or small. You will discover that despite the changes going on around you (or sometimes maybe even because of them), there are still areas and events in life to appreciate.
Hope for the Future
Things may be uncomfortable in the midst of change, but having hope for a better tomorrow can help instill a positive mindset. Find the valuable opportunities in your new situation. A tangible way to do this is by setting goals or creating a bucket-type list of activities, skills, creations, events, etc. Having this list will provide things to look forward to and excitement. It will also boost satisfaction and morale as you fulfill them.
Changes can be emotional, and it’s important to have support. Know what your resources are and utilize them. Read that book, call your friend, or, in some cases, book an appointment for counselling. There’s no reason for embarrassment because we all require help sometimes. Own your vulnerability and ask for help, encouragement, or guidance when you need it.
As I currently deal with the seasons changing, I am aware and accepting of my feelings of sadness as summer comes to a close.
I choose to be grateful for the remaining sunshine, the breeze through the open windows, and the decrease in forest fires.
I look forward to eating mellowcreme pumpkins, attending our community’s annual Spooktacular pumpkin walk, and dressing up at Halloween.
I’ve just started reading Rising Strong by Brené Brown, and I know the people I can call up (make that text or email) when I’m feeling down and need to get out of the house.
How do you deal with seasons of change?