Today, January 24th, is National Compliment Day. What an uplifting national day to celebrate! There are many benefits of complimenting for both you and your recipient. Best of all, giving out compliments is 100% free to do. Plus, you can brush up on your skills before Valentine’s Day arrives. Here is why and how to craft meaningful compliments.
Complimenting someone increases positivity and builds trust in your relationship.
Giving someone a compliment can get you out of self-focused thoughts and bring your awareness to the people and situations around you.
Most obviously, compliments make people feel good! A study proclaimed that “receiving a compliment is as much a social reward as being rewarded money.” It also showed that it improved performance, plus, compliments can help increase self-esteem.
How to Craft Meaningful Compliments
1. Make Eye Contact
Eye contact is a form of body language which expresses respect and interest. It shows the other person that you are truly paying attention to them, and this will demonstrate that what you are saying is sincere and heart-felt.
2. Be Genuine
Whatever the topic of your compliment is, be genuine. If you are actually envious, for example, your tone of voice and body language may reflect your true feelings which can result in more harm than saying nothing. If you want to pay someone a compliment, make sure you mean it.
3. Focus on Their Talents
While the occasional compliment on appearance can be appreciated, it should not be the only type of compliment you give out. Admiration for character, performance, or skills are often much more meaningful. Those are qualities that are sometimes unnoticed or underappreciated. We all want to be valued for more than our looks, and it shows that you really see the other person inside and out.
4. Make it Specific
A specific compliment comes across as sincere because you have actually put thought into it. This makes the recipient more likely to believe you and feel good about it. It also eliminates the risk of coming across the wrong way unintentionally.
5. Be Respectful
There are a few things that can cause your compliment to leave a person feeling uncomfortable instead of built up. The timing and the environment are important factors. The content of your compliment should appropriately correlate with the closeness of your relationship to them. You should also avoid reinforcing stereotypes based on gender, ethnic group, or anything else.
And it’s important to learn how to receive compliments as well. Do not undercut or discount admiration given to you. Simply smile and say, “Thank you.” That’s it! Even if your first reaction is to deny it, try to internalize the truth and positivity in the compliment.
Who will you give meaningful compliments to today?