I’ve been absent from the blog recently. Life throws us into unforeseen situations, and I would say this February has probably been one of the hardest times of my life. Here are 5 reminders I’ve been focusing on as I journey through these hard times.
1. Experience the Situation
What is here is already here. Experiencing my emotions (including fear, grief, frustration, and any other not so fun ones) fully instead of repressing them enables me to move through them. Acknowledging and accepting my present situation allows me to work toward a better tomorrow.
2. Practice Gratitude
This is a strategy from my wellness toolbox which becomes all the more important during challenges. It’s okay to be scared or frustrated, but in order to avoid a cycle of negative thought patterns I have to remember that there are also things to be thankful for in my life each day. Even more challenging, but helpful, is to try to find aspects of a difficult time to be grateful for because of what is it teaching me or ways in which I am improving my life as a result.
Sometimes it seems to take big life events to shock us into awareness and evaluate our lives. Crisis can illuminate our values. This situation has forced me to decide what really matters to me. Now I can live in line with that and be mindful about my choices.
4. Don’t Do It Alone
Everyone is struggling in their own way, so there is no need to hide or be ashamed of our own issues. Reaching out to a friend or family member can provide support. Seeking professional help will supply an unbiased view, wisdom and education, and practical tools. I have started going back to my counsellor from last year, and it has made all the difference.
5. Choose Hope
Great things take time, but every small step forward is progress in the right direction.While still acknowledging that things are difficult and painful right now, I choose to believe that I can get through them, and there will be a better future. Tough times are what make us grow.
Now I’m nowhere near perfect at this. I struggle and stumble and forget these things on a daily basis. It’s good, though, to have encouragement and positive reminders in the midst of hard times, and that’s my purpose for this post. I’m hoping to be back on track for regular posts next week.
How do you get through hard times?