I’m back! I’ve had a crazy busy couple of weeks – driving 32 hours in 4 days with my mom to surprise my sisters, getting ready to move this weekend, and updating the blog – so I hope you will bear with me as I continue to work out the kinks (such as that infuriating floating menu up there, sorry) and get back into the routine of things.
I’m over at Live Bold and Bloom talking about how to get over your past. There I describe our desire to hold onto our suffering and the negative effects of rumination on our wellness. Then I go through 10 ways to get past your past and fall in love with life again.
From the post:
I was caught up in how wrong I thought she was. Playing the role of the victim was comforting, and obsessing over every little slight made me feel justified in my own actions.
However, this was not a healthy way to live.
Rumination leads to negative thinking which leads to shame which leads to further rumination. It creates a toxic cycle that is extremely difficult to get out of. This type of thinking does not promote positive change; it only increases the feelings of discouragement and helplessness.
. . . being stuck in the past and ruminating over what went wrong not only wastes the present, but also compromises the future. This type of thinking has led you to where you are now. In order to get unstuck, you need to do something different.
Read the rest at Live Bold and Bloom.